PARTNER BEHAVIORS AND THINGS TO KNOW

 DOES MY PARTNER?

  • Call me names? 

  • Put me down or make me feel bad about myself?

  • Blame me when things to wrong?

  • Get jealous when I go out with friends?

  • Tell me what to wear or what to do?

  • Make me feel like I can't do anything right? 

  • Frequently accuse me of cheating on them?

  • Push, hit, shove, or threaten me?

  • Control my access to my money?

  • Threaten to harm or kill a pet, or someone I care about?

  • Check up on me too often?

  • Call or text me too often?

 

If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy or unsafe relationship. You are not alone and support is available. 

COULD MY RELATIONSHIP BE AFFECTING MY HEALTH?

Besides the physical injuries from abuse, the ongoing stress of having a controlling or violent partner can affect other areas of your physical or emotional health.

  • Am I depressed or anxious?

  • Am I over eating and gaining weight?

  • Under eating and losing weight?

  • Do I drink, smoke, or use drugs to cope?

  • Do I have frequent headaches or back / abdominal pain?

People experiencing abuse are 2 times more likely to be in poor health due to control of abusive partner.

There are safe steps you can take to get help.

THINGS TO KNOW ...

  • Abuse is never your fault!

  • Violence can affect anyone. It touches people of every culture, race, class, religion, age, gender, and sexual orientation. People with disabilities, immigrants, and refugees often face additional risks. 

  • Physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, and financial abuse are used by one person to gain power and control over the other partner. 

  • Alcohol and/or drugs do not cause someone to be abusive and controlling. Violence is a choice.

  • Abuse does not go away over time. It usually gets worse over time. 

  • Children are affected when they live in a home with domestic abuse.

Contact Us

24-Hour Hotline: 617.471.1234 or 888.314.3683

Supportive Counseling Services: 617.770.4065 x 300

Legal Helpline: 617.770.4065 x400

Civilian Domestic Violence Advocates:

Braintree, Quincy, Weymouth communities: 

  • Maureen Flores: 617.653.4226​​

Holbrook, Milton and Randolph communities:

  • Julie Thermidor: 617.831.8326

Dedham and Norwood communities: 

  • Sarah Kinnane: 857.939.3058

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